Ladies: there’s something important you need to know about women and sex.
You had it all together the entire time you were dating. You were witty, confident and interesting.
He was really digging you too.
But then that day came when you gave into your physical desires and had sex with him.
After that, things seemed to change.
You started to feel like the pursuer. You started to wonder if he really liked you. You started to wonder if he’d call or text you.
You started to feel insecure. You lost your confidence in yourself. You got a little more clingy. And eventually the whole thing fizzled out.
Why does this happen to women after sex?
There’s actually a biological explanation: a hormone called oxytocin. It’s a hormone that helps people form a bond after having sex. It’s designed to make us want long term relationships with each other. Both men and women have it.
Women with high levels of oxytocin become more emotional about a guy after sex with him, but unfortunately that doesn’t always happen to the guy–especially if he has lower levels of oxytocin and high levels of testosterone.
The oxytocin that is released after sex weakens your defenses and makes you feel more attached to the guy you’re dating, even if he’s not all that.
This is why having a Friends With Benefits (FWB) relationship usually isn’t the best idea for a woman. You are developing feelings at each encounter while he is staying right where he was when you first met.
Women and sex and oxytocin. It’s a formula for disaster if you don’t really know the guy and most of all if you don’t understand yourself. If you change your mind you can change your love life for the better.
Lynn Gilliard is the author of the relationship guide Let Him Chase YOU (available soon) and the eBook Friends With Benefits SUCKS (At Least for Women). She is an in-demand writer and transformational blogger helping people get in touch with their inner greatness.