What’s one of the top reasons women settle for friends with benefits relationships?
Because a lot of women are constantly seeking male approval. Why is that though? Let’s talk about it.
A woman who feels a strong need to please men commonly has one of two stories — either she did not have a father in her life at all, or had a father who did not show her how to love and receive love from a man in the proper way.
A woman who grows up without a father often feels a strong need to go above and beyond to keep a man, any man, in her life. She’s afraid of him leaving her the way that her father left. So she seeks his approval of who she is as a woman.
On the other hand, a woman who had a majorly flawed father in her life learns how to protect and make excuses for “bad” men even when they aren’t behaving or treating her right. It’s another form of seeking their approval as a woman who will “ride” for her man no matter what.
How many of us can admit to having one of these stories, which led us to actively seek male approval and validation in our lives?
*Raising my hand.*
Once we admit to having this story we can move past it and catch ourselves when we’re doing it. I no longer need the approval of a man, or ANYONE for that matter.
I only need my OWN approval and validation. That and God’s stamp of approval of course.
A man is an addition to your already full and complete life, he doesn’t define who you are.
Can you admit to yourself that you are constantly looking for male approval in your life? Maybe it’s time to start seeking your OWN love and approval before any one else’s.
Lynn Gilliard is a writer, transformational blogger and author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU.