One of the top searched questions that I see are from women who want to know why good girls finish last while bad girls always seem to get the guys.
The answer is really simple: good girls tend to live life fearfully while “bad” girls tend to live life fearlessly.
If you were a guy, which type of woman would you want to be with?
a) a woman who has low self-esteem who is constantly questioning herself and her worth, listening to what everyone tells her to do instead of living in her truth
b) a woman who doesn’t care what others thing about her decisions, who is confident, bold and demands what she wants from life? Oh, and she’s sexy.
Flip that around if it’s hard to grasp — swap out woman for man. Which type of guy would you want to date?
Men Want Bold, Beautiful Women — Even if They’re a Little “Trashy” or Mean
It might go against all sense and logic that you’ve been taught, but most men will choose a “trashy,” mean, overtly sexual woman who is bold and confident over a woman who is conservative and afraid to be herself every day of the week.
(By the way, who said these women were “bad” in the first place? The same people who keep you living in fear of judgment every day of your life. Think about that.)
This is not to say that you should become a “bad girl” or start stripping for a living.
It’s actually great news, because you can be a good woman who is confident, bold and extremely attractive to men. You can have one up on those so-called “bad” girls, many of whom may one day regret a lot of their decisions.
You don’t have to slide down a pole for a living in order to attract men. You just have to :
1) unconditionally LOVE who you are
2) Have unbending CONFIDENCE in who you are as a woman
3) STOP depending on the opinions of others and FOCUS on your own needs
4) BE BOLD about pursuing what you want in life
5) SPEAK UP for yourself
You must be a no-nonsense type of woman who gets exactly what she wants from life if you want to be irresistible to men.
It may take a little time to get there after so much brainwashing and negative self-talk, so best to get started today.
Lynn Gilliard is the author of the relationship guide Let Him Chase YOU (available soon) and the eBook Friends With Benefits SUCKS (At Least for Women). She is an in-demand writer and transformational blogger helping people get in touch with their inner greatness.