One of the most depressing times of year for single people is the holiday season. That includes pretty much all of December (Christmas, New Years, etc) and Valentine’s Day. When you’re by yourself, it seems as if everyone else around you has plans or is spending time with their “boos” except for you.
I can definitely relate. My best friend / former fiancé and I used to spend just about every Christmas and New Year’s Eve together. When he passed on, I realized that I really didn’t have anyone else in the world that I was connected to in that way.
So I spent most holidays in my bed. I mean just me and my cat watching Netflix eating potato chips and drinking wine in my bed. Mostly time spent feeling sorry for myself.
Today I have a much clearer mind. Today I say, if you’re spending the holidays by yourself, make sure that you’re in good company!
What I mean by that is that this is a perfect time to work on YOU and spend quality time with YOU. Now is a good time to follow more transformational blogs like this one, and download some motivational audiobooks to listen to when you’re feeling a little down. It’s like nourishment for the soul.
That’s what I did, and that’s why I’m now #LovingLife for the first time in a LONG time. Even if I do spend a holiday alone, I have a good time with myself. Me, myself and I get along just fine these days.
Side note: isn’t that the truth of why most people can’t stand to be alone? Because they don’t really like themselves yet. So let’s work on that this year.
Start with some audiobooks. They’re amazing! Audible has a free month trial for new members where you can download a book for free. After that you get 1 free credit per month and can purchase other books at a discount. Here are a few audiobooks to try when you need a boost:
– Let Him Chase You (of course!)
– Rhonda Byrne’s The Power
– Lisa Nichols’ No Matter What
– James Allen books
– Napoleon Hill’s books on self improvement
I also highly recommend you get a little book entitled “If Life Is a Game These Are The Rules” by Cherie Carter-Scott.
Read the Signs — It’s All About Perspective
If you want something in life and you’re not getting it yet that’s a sign that there’s room for improvement. You should have everything that you want in your life, including a holiday companion if you so desire.
I know it’s hard during the holidays, but you have to look at this as an opportunity. This is not the time to feel sorry for yourself — it’s a time to learn and grow.
When you are in your right mind you can then set new goals so that next year you’ll be living your life to the fullest, no matter what!
Happy Holidays (for real this year)!
Lynn Gilliard is a writer, transformational blogger and author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU.