Have you ever seen a dating ad where the guy says he wants “no strings attached.” What the hell does that mean anyway?
Everything in our life is connected by varying degrees of strings. Our bodies are held together by various types of “strings,” like tendons, our spine and our bones to keep us in an upright position. We have invisible “strings attached” to the people we’re related to (if you don’t believe that, why do your parents and siblings have such a strong influence on your life?)
You wouldn’t even be able to read this blog post if it weren’t for a ” string tethering your cellphone or laptop to keep it powered up.
When I see an ad that says “no strings attached” I think, what planet are you living on dude? There are always going to be strings attached when you relate with another person, whether you like it or not.
I believe that we’re all a part of One. We’ve just been socialized from birth to believe that we need to separate into different groups, ideologies and classes. We’re all connected, we just don’t know it. Yes that girl you only want a “no strings” relationship with is connected to you in some way, and the way that you treat her will come back to you just as sure as 1+1=2.
So if you are with a guy who insists on a no-strings attached relationship, hey you just might be with a crazy person — run! Quick! No seriously, drop what you’re holding and get the heck out of there!
“Strings” are what hold us all together as human beings and sustain us.
Lynn Gilliard is the “Big Sis” of dating advice and the author of a popular guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU.