I was once faced with a tough decision regarding someone who I worked with. I made a commitment to perform a job, but matters arose that would make it impossible.
I spent nights not sleeping, worrying about how I would break the news to this person who was counting on me (and who I really like as a person by the way).
All in all, I was worried about how I would tell this person “no.” No, I can’t do it.
I finally did say no, and as hard as it may have been, was it really necessary to do all of that worrying in the meantime? How many hours did I waste worrying about something that was essentially out of my control?
Putting Your Needs First
Sometimes situations arise where you have to put your needs before the needs or wants of someone else. Keeping this in mind is ultra important when you are dating men.
A lot of us women are people-pleasers. We don’t want to hurt feelings or disappoint people.
So when a guy suggests that you have sex way too soon, or asks you to pick him up and drive him around, or asks you to perform some other inappropriate action, you are afraid to say no for fear of disappointing him or losing him.
That’s no way to conduct your dating life if you want to be taken seriously as a woman. If it isn’t right, you MUST say no even if it will displease the guy you’re dating.
What you’ll probably find is that the guy will respect you MORE when you stand up for yourself and say no.
Make a Decision and Stick With It
The next time you are faced with a decision about a guy (or just in life in general) give yourself some time to ponder what is the right choice.
Then, make a firm decision and stick to it. Do not waver and do not worry about what the other person will say or think if you must say NO.
Even if it might disappoint the other person, when you say no, ask yourself this question: How much would it disappoint, inconvenience or hurt YOU if you were to say yes?
Lynn Gilliard is the author of the relationship guide Let Him Chase YOU (available soon) and the eBook Friends With Benefits SUCKS (At Least for Women). She is an in-demand writer and transformational blogger helping people get in touch with their inner greatness.