The top two questions on the minds of women when understanding men is “how can he just stop calling all of a sudden” and “how can he just forget me so easily after getting to know me?”
So he could be dating you for a couple of weeks or a couple of months and suddenly decide that he’s just not into it anymore. Meanwhile, you have developed some feelings and think it’s really going somewhere.
This happens most commonly after sex, which is why I advise women to wait until you have a deeper connection with a man, besides what’s on the surface, before you get intimate with him. Some guys will seem very interested in you in the beginning because they are involved in “the chase”– it’s exciting, like a video game!
But as soon as he’s won the game (sex) he’s going to enjoy a satisfied yawn, drop the control and go on about his business.
That is, unless he’s really had a chance to get to know you AS A PERSON, NOT A CONQUEST, in the process and genuinely enjoys your company as a woman AND friend.
This doesn’t mean that there is something that’s wrong with you (such as your looks or attractiveness) but it IS about the choices that you make while dating a guy you like. Giving too much of yourself too soon will bore the heck out of anyone.
Understanding men is sometimes complicated, but the solution here is simple. Take your time, get to know the guy, what’s the rush? Continue to date other guys if you want, and don’t give up the goodies until you have developed a bond with him that actually exists–not just in your mind.
Lynn Gilliard is the author of the relationship guide Let Him Chase YOU (available soon) and the eBook Friends With Benefits SUCKS (At Least for Women). She is an in-demand writer and transformational blogger helping people get in touch with their inner greatness.