I think I have pinpointed the number one cause of depression in women (heck, in people as a whole).
It is feeling like someone in particular or anyone in general didn’t come through for you when you really needed them. It is a result of feeling that no one is there for you in your times of need.
That’s a pretty depressing thought, isn’t it?
That person who you feel let you down could be a parent, a sibling, a friend or someone you look up to. Too often for women it’s a romantic interest.
I think that a lot of women, specifically single women, fall into depression because they are disappointed that someone who they gave their heart and love to wasn’t around when they were needed the most.
And for women I think the sadness is even deeper because we give so much of ourselves, but don’t always get that in return. And we’re expected to just “deal” with it.
Unfortunately, the solution isn’t in convincing someone to care when they don’t. If you wait around for that to happen, you could end up growing a fierce gray mustache.
The solution is in self-love, busying yourself with something you love, finding a passion and learning to live happily with or without the presence of another person.
When you’re alone is the time when you really have to put your life into turbo gear and start making positive changes.
Find out what makes you happy, whether it’s riding a motorcycle every weekend or twirling around on your toes in a ballet class Monday Wednesday and Friday.
The realization that no one owes you anything, and that you alone have the power to cure depression and sadness, is where you begin to find your power.
Lynn Gilliard is the author of the relationship guide Let Him Chase YOU (available soon) and the eBook Friends With Benefits SUCKS (At Least for Women). She is an in-demand writer and transformational blogger helping people get in touch with their inner greatness.